Twenties Pre-Mid-Life Crisis

It seems apparent to me that when people hit the twenties mark, or the sophomore year-ish time of college, people experience what I'd like to label a pre-mid-life crisis.

The cross roads in the life, the pitchfork, even, where one is at total loss at what to pursue, and how to determine the rest of his/her life's career... and the ambiguity that there is a probability that he/she might end up on the sidewalk of streets shaking a paper cup with, with any luck, a quarter in there, yelling for spare change.

The thing is, given that I have been there (ish; i was a luckier one that had minor setbacks and plenty of guidance), I think this situation taps into a very human nature - fear of failure and the unknown.

Everyone fears change, and the possibility of ending up in an abyss as a substitute for a career. That's the beauty and horror of it all - at this stage, You Never Know.
I have had many friends experience this, mostly people who set out determined to pursue one career path, but setback with this crisis, and head off into another direction. Funnily enough, looking back in retrospect, many of them would say they made the right decision. Off the top of my head I can already think of 2 good friends.

There are others, of course, perhaps under the influence of that culture or society, who seem very keen on pursuing a certain career path and stick to it, undeterred for the rest of their lives. Perhaps there is something out there that they may prefer, but for unpractical reasons, they choose to forgo. I happen to one of those people. I was robbed of my dream of being an archaeologist working at dig sites. I was also unable to pursue my noble dream of saving the world aka. doing Biology to learn about cancer. Other people include Hong Kong kids who go directly into business, because it is the most practical path. Hong Kong, afterall, is a financial hub, where the East meets the West, where the rich meets the poor, where the trendy meet the fashion victims...

Recently (and tonight) TAS (acronyms for someone special) had a meltdown. He is at this severe cross roads. His grades do not allow him to pursue a career in the medical field. He feels as though he has let his parents down, for good.
I strongly believe that he has all the potential in the world to be amazing. He happens to be one of those strange people who is often given too little credit for their talents, simply because they tend to be so low-key, or they somewhat hide it by living under the radar. However, given the situation, they will rise to the circumstance and outperform.
I truly hope that this is one of the times where this withdrawn individual who thinks he has no passions but just many tiny hobbies can look at himself and realize that he is amazing and can do many things. I hope he will find his passion and calling... pursue it, and as we all expect, outperform.
Like a seasoned counselor, I gave him advice which he duly noted. More of a preacher than a practicer myself, I seem to have given him advice that he will take to heart, and which I think will do him good. It seems to me that inspirational quotes that I have a penchant for come in handy in times like these.

I suppose I am writing this entry to express this situation that attacks us at the peak of oblivion. I suppose I am writing this entry to express what I feel towards the TAS.
I suppose I am writing this entry to express my hopes and my wishes for the TAS, believing that he will emerge more successful.
However, he will need to put in work. He can either shoot for the better, or sink for the worse. i will make sure he will go with the former. He is a wonderful person. I really hope he can find something he likes.

I plan to be there to make him the best person he can be, because I want to. Also, I want to be a good... girlfriend-figure for him. To give him the best. Quite frankly, I was not up to par in my previous relationship, and I would really like to be better than a 50 cent girlfriend from now on. Because, what is life full of regrets? No life, that's what it is.

Therefore, my dear invisible readers, this is a case where one should, when life gives them lemons, make lemonade. Make it hard lemonade if you will. The important thing is, when things get sour, you need to reach into the sugar jar and throw in some sugar. Some ice. And sometimes, a bit of alcohol so you can enjoy the drink.